It’s one of the most difficult principles of life to practice but it can also be one of the most rewarding.
It’s one of the grandest gifts you can give to yourself because when you forgive, you are released from the heavy burden and resentment that you’ve been carrying that’s weighing you down.
You become lighter literally and things in your life begin to fall into place.
BUT – know this – it’s not about condoning the mistreatment or toxic behavior of individuals.
It is about allowing what they did to you – to not affect how you live your life now.
Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different.
It’s accepting the reality of what did happen and moving on.
But when you can rise up and just really meet that pain face to face and then let it flow through you, only then can you let it go and step out of the hurt of your history – and into the possibility of the present.
You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past you will continue to bleed.
You can bandage the bleeding but eventually, it’s going to ooze through and stain your life.
You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them.
Accept the now
That is the recipe to begin healing and give up the hope that the past could have been anything other than what it was.
Whatever happened helped to make you the person you are today.
Find the courage to let go of all your grudges because on the other side of forgiveness is freedom.
The freedom to live the life for which you were intended and the one you deserve.
Look at where you’ve come from, how far you’ve journeyed to get to the YOU that you are now – and you’re still adapting and evolving to an ever-better version of yourself.
Holding onto the past only weighs you down and prevents you from being who you’re meant to be right now because you’re still energetically holding on to the past.
The energy that you put into constantly rewinding to the resentment, “why did they do that, why did they say that to me, I didn’t deserve to be treated that way”.
All of that only keeps you stuck – it will never change what happened.
You must press stop and reject the urge to keep replaying so that you can then fast forward into the now for yourself.
A lot of people think that holding on to things that disempowered them is going to somehow turn it around magically.
You must give up the hope that the past could have been any different – it’s not an easy task, but ask you to ask yourself:
“Why am I holding on to this? how is this serving me?”
Then I ask you again ask yourself:
“Do you want to be right? or do you want peace?
Time is moving on and it’s our most valuable commodity, you can never get it back.
So, staying in that loop, playing it over and over in your head of hurt only amplifies your pain.
Let it go
Make room in your heart for something that is uplifting and surround yourself with people who want the best for you.
You have the ability to lift your spirit and control how you perceive life – so why not lighten your load and let it go.
Knowing that when you know better you do better.
You are responsible for your life, and if you’re sitting around waiting on somebody to save you, fix you, you to even help you – you are wasting your time.
Because only you have the power to take responsibility and move your life forward.
It does not matter where you come from, what matters is now in this moment and your willingness to see this moment for what it is – accept it, forgive the past, take responsibility, and move forward.
-The above was taken from a speech done by Oprah Winfrey
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Or have you forgiven someone in the past in order to move forward?
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