Pregnancy and Newborns: The Most honest List of Must-Need Items. If you’re a first-time mom-to-be, consider this a warning.
An uncontrollable desire to aggressively sort and clean everything in your home will possess you in the last few weeks leading up to your baby’s arrival.
If you’re anything like me, this will be the only time in your life that you are seized by such a compulsion, so enjoy it while it lasts. Indeed, with a small person around, the chances are that your house will never be that clean again. Ever.
When I look back on those days though, I also recall being fixated about ensuring I had all the things that my baby might ever need. The only problem was, I hadn’t actually met this particular baby. So whilst I assumed he would love the baby sling, cute little old man suspenders, and the adorable (expensive) range of dummies I had bought – I was very mistaken.
Much to my surprise, he hated being in a sling, he spat out every kind of dummy, and all the cute, cool, tiny clothes and accessories I’d bought him stayed very cool (and unworn) as he popped out already big enough for 3-6 months clothing and also, because comfy clothes and a soft blanket was all he (and I) have ever really wanted to wear.
So as wonderfully exciting as shopping for your baby as can be, here are some of the things I wish someone had told me NOT to bother buying before the baby arrives:
- Teeny tiny clothes. I know, I know – they’re just so cute. I bought loads of tiny baby things for this sole reason. But if your baby is anything like mine, those newborn clothes will be lucky to be worn even once before your baby has outgrown them.
- Shoes! Again – so cute and yet oh so impractical. Trying to get small, squishy feet into small shoes is the absolute worst. It rates right up there with cleaning boogers out of tiny nostrils. Remember, as amazingly advanced as your little cherub might be, he/she won’t be walking anywhere for a very, very long time. Baby shoes are about as necessary as baby dental floss.
- Truckloads of nappies. You might think you’re going to stick to a certain brand of nappy, or go full-earth-mother and invest in a collection of eco-nappies, but if motherhood and new babies teach us anything, it’s that assumptions make an ass out of all of us. Wait until you’ve had your baby to stock up on nappies – the size and brand really do make a difference. What works for some doesn’t for others. The same goes for eco-nappies… buy just one and try it out before investing in many.
- Educational toys. Your tiny baby will be on a full-time, crash course from the moment he/she is born – learning, learning, learning your voice, language, family, home, and surroundings. For the first few weeks at least, they really don’t need any educational input or toys. And for months thereafter, most babies would happily take a set of keys and some pots and pans over anything actually designed to entertain them!
- All the baby-wearing accessories. From pouches to slings to large reams of fabric that swoosh around you and your baby until you can’t tell where one begins and the other ends… these are really amazing tools and many parents swear by them, but finding the right one for you and your baby is really important. In my experience, it’s not a one-size-fits-all kind of thing. As I mentioned earlier, when I gently placed my much-anticipated baby into his much-anticipated sling, I think he thought I was trying to put him back in the womb and screamed to high heaven. My last-born absolutely loved that kind of thing though and I suspect he would still crawl up into a sling if he could fit.
The bottom line: don’t buy these kinds of things until you and your baby have had a little time to get to know one another and you can work out what works for the two of you. If you have any mom friends that you can borrow or trial items from (before investing in your own) – even better.
So what are the essentials?
There are very few in my opinion: a bunch of soft, light blankets and burp cloths, some baby vests and comfy baby grows, a few packs of nappies, a little bum cream, a lot of wet wipes, a car seat, and a whole load of patience and love – for yourself and the little bundle that’s about to rock your world.
MUMs can you relate with any of these? Is there something you wish you were told to wait on buying till after the baby arrives?
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Chat soon MUMs x